Advice

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My Friend has been using ChatGPT on all of her assignments. What should I do?

My friend is using ChatGPT in all of her assignments and tests. She has all A’s because of this cheating. She is in honors and AP classes. How do I tell her to stop and convince her that it is dishonest? 

Response: You should never resort to ChatGPT for your assignments. It is dishonest, and you can get in so much trouble. It could ruin your future for the worst. You should tell them to change their ways at first because it is wrong. However, if this continues and there is no change, you should anonymously report it to a teacher or tell your counselor. It is the right thing to do. However, there are positive sides to using ChatGPT. You can use it to proofread your work, give you suggestions, help find articles, and make study guides. It is not all bad, and your friend should not use it for bad. 

I have really bad test anxiety. What do I do?

I study a lot for tests, but every time I take them, I blank and panic. It is affecting my grades. This is making me very frustrated. What methods or solutions do you recommend for this?

Response: Try to talk to your teacher about this and discuss specific methods that could help you, like taking the test in a separate room or getting extra time. You can talk to people or search up certain methods that could possibly work for you. Not all methods will work, but you should try different ones. Some examples are deep breathing, fidget toys, good sleep, and studying really hard. You can always overpreapre to make yourself feel better about the test. 

My friend group excludes my friend. What should I do?

I am in a very big friend group, and they are very kind and welcoming to me. However, I recently noticed they exclude one person, often talking about her behind her back. They even have a separate group chat without her. I am very good friends with her. Should I tell her she is being left out and go against the group, or stay and exclude her so I don’t lose the rest of my friends? I might get kicked out of the group and lose all my friends.

Response: You should not participate in doing these actions, like gossiping and leaving her out. You should be kind to her and offer one-on-one hangouts. You can also ask the friend group if you can invite her to the group plans politely. However, that big friend group might not be worth it. I know that you do not want to lose all those friends, but you have to question if they are really good friends based on their actions. Be the person who doesn’t gossip or exclude people and chooses to be kind. 

My friend likes my crush. What should I do?

One of my friends has been lying to me about my crush. She’s been texting him secretly behind my back, even when I told her I am not comfortable with it. We had a huge fight, and my friend group split, with her telling everyone it’s my fault. What should I do?

Response: You should confront her again and set boundaries with her. If this doesn’t work, and she still refuses, she is not your friend. Your real friends should respect your boundaries and feelings. If she is telling your friends her side of the story, tell yours, and your friends can decide who is in the wrong. You can say,” If you value our friendship, you should stop texting him.” Hopefully, it can work out between you guys, but it is wrong of her to text him, and you should state that clearly. People have natural feelings, which is fine, but going on to text him when you are uncomfortable is a bad action that should not be done. 

How do I get over a girl? I really loved her.

I like a girl that I do not want to like, and she does not like me back. I’ve been trying for way too long to get over her, but I haven’t been able to yet. How can I get over her?

Response: Try to distance yourself and limit contact. It is better for you not to get hurt. You can talk to someone like your guidance counselor, journal, or do things to try to relieve stress. You can try to confess again, but it is most likely not going to work. Really think about how they are as a person, and if you really like them. It is hard to get over someone, but it is a natural process that will take time and lots of healing. Don’t be sad over it, and you can even be friends with them when you’re over them. You can’t control their feelings, sadly, so you just need to power through it with help from others and caring for yourself.